LOVING THROUGH WORDS

Loving through Words

Wise words satisfy like a good meal; the right words bring satisfaction. The tongue can bring death or life.Proverbs 18:20-21

There are two basic ways to express love in a marriage: words and deeds. Today, we’ll look at words. First Corinthians 8:1 says, “Love edifies” (nkjv) or “builds up” (niv). So if I want to love, I will use words that build up my spouse. “You look nice in that outfit.” “Thanks for taking the garbage out.” “I loved the meal. Thanks for all your hard work.” “I appreciate your walking the dog for me Tuesday night. It was a real help.” All of these are expressions of love.

Proverbs 18:21 tells us, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (nkjv). Words are powerful. You can kill your spouse’s spirit with negative words—words that belittle, disrespect, or embarrass. You can give life with positive words—words that encourage, affirm, or strengthen. I met a woman some time ago who complained that she couldn’t think of anything good to say about her husband. I asked, “Does he ever take a shower?” “Yes,” she replied. “Then I’d start there,” I said. “There are men who don’t.”

I’ve never met a person about whom you couldn’t find something good to say. And when you say it, something inside the person wants to be better. Say something kind and life-giving to your spouse today and see what happens.

Lord Jesus, help me to remember that my words are powerful. I want to use them to build up and give life, not to cut down and bring discouragement. Please help me to use my words today to express love to my spouse.